Excuse: “I have learned what true submission is and it is not brokenness under abuse.”
Reality: Let me fill you in and say this to you as lovingly as possible as the Ruach gives me understanding: You are deceived and you do not have the love of Elohim.
Let me spell this out in the best love I can according to what the scripture teaches as true submission, contrary to anything you or others might think. It sounds like you have been deceived by HaSatan. HaSatan is a role which in Hebrew means “The Adversary.” It’s not a name for the devil as many suppose even though that is his role as well. When you go to Israel, the prosecuting attorney’s are called HaSatan.
One of the greatest lessons I have learned is that our role in this life and obedience to our Father in Heaven is not contingent upon our environment being pleasant, but rather a very harsh one. Let’s consider the abuse Messiah endured on your behalf. He was beaten and abused far more than any man. The servant is not above his master and so those who serve Messiah can expect nothing different. If you think you can only submit in easy street, it is not Yeshua the Messiah you serve. Should we expect better than that? How can we claim to have the love of the Father if our love fails the moment we endure hardship? That’s NOT the Father’s love. My bible tells me that love ENDURES ALL! What part of that have you missed? How will you be able to endure the great tribulation if you haven’t endured the mere hardships of this life?
It’s always easier when we serve a righteous leader, and I understand that completely. Where the real test comes in as scripture presents is when we can actually love and serve someone who is difficult, even angry. Anyone can serve when the road is easy. That is not the road Messiah endured. And all the way he submitted even to the point of death. When we serve him, we can’t expect anything different.
2 Timothy 2:3 Complete Jewish Bible (CJB)
3 Accept your share in suffering disgrace as a good soldier of the Messiah Yeshua.
John 15:20 Complete Jewish Bible (CJB)
20 Remember what I told you, ‘A slave is not greater than his master.’ If they persecuted me, they will persecute you too; if they kept my word, they will keep yours too.
1 Peter 2:18 Complete Jewish Bible (CJB)
18 Household servants, submit yourselves to your masters, showing them full respect — and not only those who are kind and considerate, but also those who are harsh.
So you can see that the direction in scripture is never conditional on our environment. I’ve been there and had to learn submission even to angry men I worked for as well as abuse as a child from a hostile dad and endured these things for many years. We never become better until we understand this. Anyone can do well when the road is easy, but the real test comes in when we endure the hardest road. Our nature is never revealed when things are going our way, our nature is only revealed under stress.
Consider Yeshua the Messiah hanging on a stake after being brutally beaten and humilated and saying to the Father, Forgive them, they don’t know what they are doing. Stephen, being stoned by an angry mob looking up into Heaven saying, Father, Forgive them they don’t know what they are doing. Daniel, in the Lion’s den because he chose to serve the Father. Shadrach, Meschach and Abednigo, thrown into a furnace that would instantly burn you to death and put such pain and fear within you that you could never imagine. Yet they trusted the Elohim of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob and endured the firey furnace, never did the flames or heat affect them.
Yochanon the baptist being beheaded never wavered from the faith. And you say you need easy street so you can flourish? So you can serve the Father at your best? Get behind me HaSatan, your Father is not Elohim. Until you can receive these words, neither will you know the Messiah you claim has set you free that you think you serve.
Here is the role of the wife to the man as scripture presents. Notice, it is not conditional on the environment, it addresses the role she is responsible for in any event.
Ephesians 5:22-24 Complete Jewish Bible (CJB)
22 Wives should submit to their husbands as they do to the Lord; 23 because the husband is head of the wife, just as the Messiah, as head of the Messianic Community, is himself the one who keeps the body safe. 24 Just as the Messianic Community submits to the Messiah, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Stop reading the Bible with your own agenda or thinking, get yourself filled with the Ruach first so you can understand it. If any of what I have written here is foreign to you, you need to get right with Elohim. Your sensitivity has turned into a sickness that will destroy you and take you into the lake of fire.
Remember, the road to damnation is a wide one that is easy. The road to everlasting life is very narrow and filled with trials and hardship. Never expect your life here to be easy, because if you do this will be your heaven, after which you will cease no more. Those who sew in sorrow will reap with joy however and enjoy ever lasting life in complete Shalom. If you want easy street now, don’t expect to be in eternity with Messiah when he returns. You’ve shed no tears now if you have had it easy or expect it easy. Your doctrine is that of the Devil and he is your father.
Psalm 126 Complete Jewish Bible (CJB)
126 (0) A song of ascents:
When Adonai restored Tziyon’s fortunes,
we thought we were dreaming.
Our mouths were full of laughter,
and our tongues shouted for joy.
Among the nations it was said,
“Adonai has done great things for them!”
Adonai did do great things with us;
and we are overjoyed.
Return our people from exile, Adonai,
as streams fill vadis in the Negev.
Those who sow in tears
will reap with cries of joy.
He who goes out weeping
as he carries his sack of seed
will come home with cries of joy
as he carries his sheaves of grain.
The Father’s word is harder than many realize, the road to everlasting life, narrower than many know. But the Ekklesia know the way because they do not seek an easy life in this flesh. They seek the only way, THE WAY who endured more grief than any of us so that he could show us the way.
Can you receive it?